When the pressure is on and the pressure gets too much, you’ll be able to see what happens when you can’t escape from your own body.
Here are some of the more common ways people get turned on and then forced to have sex with strangers.
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Your body is too big For the majority of people, the biggest obstacle to having sex is their own body size.
It’s an inevitable part of life, and it’s a problem that can be a barrier to having a satisfying sexual experience.
But for some people, sex with a stranger is a challenge that makes them question their own limits.
“My body is so big, it makes it very hard to reach,” says 19-year-old Sarah, who asked that her full name not be used.
“I don’t have a lot of control over my size, and I think if I did, I wouldn’t have had a lot to work with.”
Sarah has been a victim of forced sex videos her whole life.
She started seeing a counsellor when she was 16, but she says she wasn’t able to cope with the pressure and couldn’t get into sex at first.
Sarah’s experience is typical of many people who have been turned on by a stranger’s size.
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The stranger is older You may have been watching a video that features someone being coerced into sex.
You may be in a relationship where they are older and in control of the situation, and the person you are seeing is younger.
If you were a stranger and someone you were in a long-term relationship with was older, you may be more vulnerable.
“It’s hard for me to find a partner, and as soon as I’m in a sex situation, I’m more nervous and insecure,” Sarah says.
Sarah says it took her “a long time” to get into a relationship, and she eventually broke off.
“Once I stopped watching, I just started going back and forth with my feelings about sex.”
“When I first started having sex, I was like, ‘Oh, this is so gross, this guy’s older and I’m too young,'” she says.
“But once I started seeing someone, I realised I could trust them and that I could do what I wanted to do with myself.”
Sarah says she felt “free” in her sex life, because she didn’t feel pressured into having sex.
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The sex is forced It’s a common misconception that sex with someone who is older is less coercive than sex with people who are younger.
“Sex with someone older is not coercive, and people think it’s because the person is older,” says Lindsay, a 20-year old student from the University of Queensland.
Lindsay’s experiences with sex with her boyfriend were different.
“He wasn’t going to make me do anything that I wasn’t comfortable doing, and that was fine with me,” Lindsay says.
Lindsay says she did feel pressure, and was in the wrong body for the situation.
“If I was older and my body wasn’t quite right for the relationship, I could have been more comfortable being in there,” she says, but “he was just a bit more of a boss, a little more dominant”.
Lindsay says her body was too big for the sex, and said that her boyfriend’s body “wasn’t exactly perfect” for her.
“His body was kind of too big, so I had to get it out of my head, because I couldn’t do anything,” she explains.
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The person is a stranger It’s not just a matter of a person being older and a different body that is causing people to feel pressured.
Many people experience pressures that they themselves are uncomfortable with or don’t feel they have control over.
Lindsay, for example, says she’s had a few sex partners she’s regretted because of the pressure that someone with a different shape or body put on her.
In her case, Lindsay’s partner was an older man who was “really good looking”.
“I think it was just too much pressure,” Lindsay admits.
“A lot of times it felt like it was me being a bad person, and [my partner] wasn’t trying to help me get off, it was about him being a big boss.”
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The act is too violent If the person in question is older, it’s more likely that they will be in control and will feel free to engage in the act.
“The more you feel like you’re in control, the more you will be able relax,” Lindsay explains.
“You’ll feel like, Oh, no, this isn’t really about me.
I don’t want this to happen, and my partner will help me.”
Lindsay says that when she’s with someone younger, the pressure will be different.
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The sexual act isn’t consensual The same body that’s used in sex can also be used to make the act sexual.
“People who are in control can put pressure on themselves to do things that they wouldn’t normally